By Eric on August 20, 2012 9

Getting Out of a Rut

I have been in a funk lately. If you didn’t notice, I didn’t post at all last week. I just couldn’t do it. I’ve had a lot of stress at work lately and just felt in a funk. My guess is that you all have felt that way at one point or another.

getting out of a rut

I really hate being in that state of mind. Feeling sorry for myself, having built-up anger over the current situation and not seeing it getting any better in the foreseeable future. It can be a very slippery slope to go down, and I am never impressed with my actions as a result. My attitude flat-out stunk last week, and something needed to change.

Coincidentally, I’ve been listening to the book The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. A fascinating book about why we do what we do in life and business. I won’t go into too many details about the book, but it made me realize that I needed to change some things up if I wanted to get myself out of the rut that I was in. I am feeling a lot better and positive about the upcoming week due to the following things:

5 Things That Helped Get Me Out of the Rut

  • Excercise: Sadly, this has been lacking in my life since the Dam to Dam race. It was so hot this summer and I had a few lingering pains so I gave up on running all together. I hope to get back into it again sometime. I just got a new road bike and have been on a few rides in the past week that have really helped to clear my head and burn off steam.
  • Personal day: Luckily the famous Iowa State Fair was going on and last Tuesday, Kelsey and I decided (spur of the moment) to take Friday off, and have a date day while Rooney was at day care. A day to enjoy the outdoors, people watch, be entertained and eat a horrendous amount of fried foods.
  • Make the bed: I told Kelsey that we had to make a change in our daily habits. The one thing I wanted us to focus on was making the bed immediately after getting up every morning. I know, earth-shattering stuff here. But, this is what Charles Duhigg would describe in The Power of Habit as a small win. A tiny shift in our habits that will hopefully carry over into other areas of our lives. Plus, making the bed every morning is linked to better productivity throughout the day.
  • Morning routine: I also got serious about my morning routine, which has been a little less than intentional since Rooney arrived. Last week I started getting up at 4:50 a.m. to shower, get dressed, and have daily quiet time before I do anything else (building more new/good habits).
  • Talk it out: Keeping emotions inside has never been a good option for me. It really helps to have open, honest conversations with Kelsey about how I am feeling and why. Just getting it out there, even if she couldn’t provide a solution, made me feel better.

So, I’m on the mend, and it feels good to be back in the writing saddle again.

How about you? How do you get yourself out of a rut?



Husband to Kelsey. Father to Rooney. Follower of Jesus. Born and raised in Iowa. I like blogging. Bulleted lists excite me. Thanks for stopping by.

  1. Sorry to hear you’re in a funk. I hope this week is better. My hubby just said to me a couple weeks ago that people who make the bed are more productive. I like the idea of making small changes that can spill over into other parts of our lives and eventually lead to bigger ones. I’m going to remember that this week and go make the bed!

  2. Reading, reading, reading. Whenever I’m in a bad mood or just can’t seem to get anything done, I read. Since I was able to read, it has helped my attitude. I get really into stories (especially fiction), and they help to remind me that my life is so much easier than these characters. I don’t have to save the world or deal with a loved one dying or anything nearly that traumatic. All I have to do is get out of bed, which suddenly seems do-able. I guess it just gives me a different perspective, and reminds me that my problems aren’t actually as big as I’m making them. :)

  3. when i’m in a funk i need a fresh start. sometimes that’s an all day house cleaning event, sometimes it’s as simple as making the bed (isn’t it amazing how much that helps?), sometimes it’s a long walk… just something that i can say, “i’m moving on in a positive direction from this point.” also talking… i don’t always need my husband to respond, but just being able to pour it all out helps.

  4. I understand exactly how you feel!! For me the biggest thing to get me out of a rut/funk is to start telling God what I am grateful for even when I don’t feel like it. When I mad or down because I don’t get my way, I tell God I am thankful for the hot water in the shower, the carpet under my feet, the dog with horrible breath that covers me with kisses. I find it difficult to be in a slump thanking God for His abundant blessings.

  5. I love it how honest you two are. All of the things you discuss are things most (if not all of us) experience but often like to pretend we don’t. I think it’s healing, in itself, to just admit you are in a rut. Here is to a better week! :)

  6. Thank you for this post Eric. I’ve been in a funk too lately, and so has my Boyfriend. I sent him the link :) I really really appreciated your honesty. Making my bed in the last few months has been wonderful!! Nothing like coming home to a clean made bed. Also, for me what helps, is cleanliness. If the house is picked up & most importantly my room is picked up, I feel less stressed.

  7. I think it’s brave of you to admit this! It seems to be that men usually don’t want to admit their trouble with work as it seems like a “weakness.” But everybody goes through them! I hope this week is better for you. I went to the state fair last weekend for the first time… it was interesting, and OMG so much fried food!!

  8. I hear ya about falling into a rut sometimes. I feel like i’m on a cycle where for months I’m fine, just going about life, but then that routine life feels like it’s strangling me. I feel so bored and just want more, different, better. But I always come around and know I have a great life and I need to do little things myself to keep it fun! Glad to hear you are feeling better!

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