Archives For Marriage

By Kelsey on November 28, 2012 18


For years I wondered if there was one – and only one – person out there for me. You know, the one. The romantic in me would like to think yes. I asked Eric and he thinks probably not. He thinks there are probably a number of people we are compatible with and would be happy with.

That sounds kind of anti-climactic to me. But maybe he’s right. I’ve decided it doesn’t really matter, because I was thinking about it the other day and I realized that I totally married the right person for me. Here’s why:

  • I never get sick of him. Eric is my best friend. The foundation of our love is authentic friendship – that’s how it started. We love to be with each other and talk to each other. We realized the other day that we have been friends for 10 years. Ten years! That’s a long time to hang out with someone. Still to this day we both swear we’ve never gotten sick of each other.
  • He complements me. There is a lot of balance in our relationship that makes it work. Sure, sometimes it creates tension, but most of the time we are able to celebrate our differences and realize that we need each other. Eric’s a spender, I’m a saver. He makes decisions with his head, I use my heart. He’s very futuristic, I live in the present. He steals the sheet, I steal the comforter. He uses the big spoons, I like the little ones. He prefers to wash dishes, and I like to put away the clean ones. Neither of us is wrong, just different. And it works.
By Eric on November 20, 2012 8

Confession: We’ve been arguing over some really silly things lately. Specifically, who went to get groceries the last time and who’s turn it is to get them this time. It sounds silly, because it is. It’s also crazy immature the way we both throw a fit about it in order to get out of running a simple errand.

We seemed to have developed spirits of selfishness instead of serving each other. It makes me feel terrible when I stop and think about it. In acting this way, how much farther from following Jesus could we be? Yuck.

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By Kelsey on August 31, 2012 9

Have you seen The Vow yet? (If not, we got it free from Redbox (using these free Redbox coupon codes). Watch it this weekend!)

Eric and I both really liked it. I think watching it after recently having a baby made me see it in a unique way.

The premise of the story is (I won’t give anything away that you can’t see in the trailer): A young married couple gets into a car accident, and the wife goes into a coma. When she wakes up, she has no clue who her husband is or why she married him. She doesn’t even know who she is anymore.

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By Kelsey on July 24, 2012 11

“When you have a baby, you set off an explosion in your marriage, and when the dust settles, your marriage is different from what it was. Not better, necessarily; not worse, necessarily; but different.” –Nora Ephron

This is an update to Eric’s post on how having a newborn affects our marriage. A lot of you left awesome comments on that post, so thank you! Continue Reading…

By Eric on July 23, 2012 6
Question from Ivy: I’m recently engaged. Eeeek! I was wondering if you have any advice for those about-to-be-newlyweds and what planning we can do not for the wedding, but for our marriage itself (finances, etc.).

We get really excited when young couples ask us questions like this. Not because we did it the right way, but rather quite the opposite. We were not thinking long-term when we were engaged, and certainly not asking for advice from those who have gone before us.

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