By Guest on July 6, 2012 10

You Can’t Quit Being a Mom

This is a guest post by Kristel Acevedo, wife to Alex and mother to Liam. Her interests include reading, writing and Instagram. She has a master’s degree in Biblical counseling from Southeastern Seminary and has a passion for helping others through life’s most difficult moments. You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook. If you want to guest post on this blog, check out our guest post guidelines.

Hello, my name is Kristel and 10 months ago I became a mother. Much like Kelsey, motherhood rocked my world! I was over-prepared for the birth of my baby but grossly unprepared for what would come after. Nothing was what I expected it to be and soon I began to panic.

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My husband and I decided long before I was pregnant that I would be a stay-at-home mom once we had children. I have never regretted this decision, but I certainly questioned it on days when my baby would cry for hours, refusing naps and seemingly hating everything.

I wondered how I would handle motherhood. There were days (and nights!) when I thought I wouldn’t be able to take it anymore.

I wanted to throw in the towel, but how could I? I’m a mom now; you can’t just quit being a mom.

Ten months later, things have definitely gotten better. My son has (finally!) started sleeping all night long in his own crib. He is taking regular naps. He is breastfeeding like a champ and eating solid foods like it’s his job. He plays and laughs and learns new tricks every day.

We have gotten into a groove and motherhood is a lot more fun these days.

Are there hard days? You bet. Do I get burned out? I certainly do. Thankfully I have an amazing husband who is also an amazing father and knows just how to care for me and the baby. I have a family who loves my boy to no end and is always encouraging me. And I have a Heavenly Father who blesses us and never abandons us. I also make almost-daily trips to Starbucks for a little “mama time” with an iced chai latte.

Being a new mother can definitely be overwhelming. I would often find myself thinking, “There is no end to this! I will never sleep again. I will never be carefree again. He is never going to stop crying!”

I’m here to tell you, it does get better. Soon you and your baby get to know each other. You “learn” your baby and your baby trusts you as you care for him. Don’t give up, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

And don’t forget that God will give you the wisdom, patience and grace it takes to be the mother that your baby needs.

How did your life change when you had a baby? Did you find the transition to parenthood to be easy or difficult? What helped you along the way?

 

Guest

  1. Life definitely changed, but for me going from one child to two was much harder! The things that made it easier was having a great support system, which it sounds like you have, and having other mommy friends who had been through whatever I was going through. Knowing there were other moms out there made me feel not so alone in the world, and they always had practical advice if I needed it! BTW, your son is adorable!!!

    • Thank you so much! Sorry for the late response, how embarrassing! We recently found out we are expecting number two and I’m excited! But totally nervous because I’ve heard the transition from one to two is a doozy.
      Thanks again for your comment!

  2. Very well said. As a new mom myself, my son is 6.5 months, I find these words very encouraging! Thank you for posting :)

  3. What an appropriate post for me to be reading at 4:30am when my baby will not go back to sleep!

  4. I’ve been reading your blog for a while. Like, almost since it started. For the most part, I enjoy it – even though I am a debt-ridden atheist (go figure!). You two seem genuine, and Rooney has been an interesting addition to your blog content (which is notable for me, because I don’t give a rip about babies).

    I just thought you should know – this guest blogger thing is boring. I know you’re probably trying to save time because you’re busy with the baby and all, but I would suggest you just not post every day then. People come to this site to read about YOU, not some random bloggers looking for clicks.

    Just my 2 cents.

    • Thanks for the comment Tara. We’re thankful for honest feedback. This was a consideration before we started accepting guest posts. But one of the things we value abou this blog is the community and what they have to say. Most of that comes from the comments.

      We could shut the comments off and the site would lose a lot of it’s value. We want to hear what others have to say on the topics we cover, and we also want to share some it with our readers. Saving time wasn’t the reason, it was to give others a unique opportunity to share with our readers.

      Again, thanks for the input.

  5. I was hugely encouraged in the early days to hear people saying, “You’re doing a good job.” People who saw me up close and could really offer an informed opinion–like my mom or my husband. My husband and I also went to bed super early and took “shifts” so we could both get some sleep before the next day started.

    • Yes! In the early days when it came to bedtime I would nurse the baby and then went right to sleep and it was my husband’s job to get the baby to sleep for the night. That way I could maximize on sleep before the baby woke up for his first feed of the night. I seriously don’t know what I would do without my husband! And my mom! And my mother-in-law!

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